Why Do You Have a Hard Time Getting Over Things That Have Happened To You?

Adrian S. Potter
1 min readFeb 13, 2022

A mindful answer to a familiar question.

Photo by Susan Wilkinson on Unsplash

Sometimes the challenge comes from trying to “get back to the way things were” or “the way you used to be.” You cannot return to that state.

You will never fully heal if you actively try returning to who you were before the chaos or emotional distress happened.

That person simply does not exist anymore. They drowned in pools of negativity or people-pleased themselves out of existence, all so your current self could take the reins.

You are destined to grow and evolve because of the event(s) that hurt or traumatized you.

Accept and embrace that revised identity. It is an upgrade. They are bound to be more resilient and emotionally aware than the old version of you. And that’s a good thing.

Adrian S. Potter — the antisocial extrovert — is an author, engineer, consultant, and public speaker. He writes poetry, short fiction, and articles on various subjects, including creativity, leadership, and personal growth. He is the author of the forthcoming book Fractured Epiphanies (Stillhouse Press) & Everything Wrong Feels Right (Portage Press). Visit him at http://adrianspotter.com/.

Adrian S. Potter

Antisocial Extrovert · Writer and Poet, Engineer, Consultant, Public Speaker · Writing about self-improvement, gratitude, and creativity · www.adrianspotter.com