How Exactly Do I Stand Up For Myself?

Adrian S. Potter
3 min readMar 2, 2022

Push for what you want. Hard.

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Whether in the workplace or social scenarios, people need to speak up on their own behalf. We all need our voice, ideas, and feelings understood by those around us. Here are some simple ideas to keep in mind when being assertive and advocating for your interests:

Don’t apologize (unless it’s warranted).

When standing up for ourselves, we often feel a silly urge to make excuses or apologize to the other person. Be assertive. You can say yes or no without offering a reason. Sometimes all that’s needed is a simple answer.

Understand the opposing viewpoint.

We often look within ourselves to counter others. One way to exude confidence is to stay aware of the other person. Consider their perspective, motives, and needs. Cliché as it seems, there are two sides to every story. You will fight for your viewpoint better if you understand theirs.

Select your words wisely.

Carefully develop verbal responses. Voices and words are influential tools. Plan your words precisely. Monitor delivery and vocal tone. Be aware during the encounter and reflect afterward. Are you positive or negative about word choices? Is your message stated passively or…



Adrian S. Potter

Antisocial Extrovert · Writer and Poet, Engineer, Consultant, Public Speaker · Writing about self-improvement, gratitude, and creativity ·