How Do I Get People To Like Me?

Adrian S. Potter
2 min readJan 8, 2022

Try always choosing positivity.

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I apologize for luring you in with a blatant clickbait question as a title.

I confess — there’s no surefire way to get others to appreciate you.

I am sorry, but it’s true. All you can hope to do is stack the deck in your favor, be authentic, and try not to repel others with your theoretically magnetic personality.

But you can tilt the scales and increase your chances of being liked. The game plan might be simple, but it’s not always easy to execute.

Resist any urge to criticize, condemn, or complain.

Simply put, negative folks aren’t fun to hang around. Positive and enthusiastic people, however, are alluring and motivating.

So when awful thoughts arise or a mean remark threatens to come out of your mouth, just stop. Bury it. Do not utter a word.

It’s easier said than done, but always conjure up something good to say instead.

You can find a way to sidestep between “This music sucks!” and “Isn’t the weather lovely?” in an instant. Have enough discipline to pivot towards the upbeat response, even when you’re drowning in the depths of a crappy day.

If two things are true, try to choose the positive option. People will gravitate towards your optimism, especially in this world filled with negativity.

Adrian S. Potter — the antisocial extrovert — is an author, engineer, consultant, and public speaker. He writes poetry, short fiction, and articles on various subjects, including creativity, leadership, and personal growth. He is the author of the forthcoming book Fractured Epiphanies (Stillhouse Press) & Everything Wrong Feels Right (Portage Press). Visit him at



Adrian S. Potter

Antisocial Extrovert · Writer and Poet, Engineer, Consultant, Public Speaker · Writing about self-improvement, gratitude, and creativity ·