Consider These Factors When Delivering Feedback

Adrian S. Potter
4 min readMar 17, 2024

The acceptance of constructive criticism is influenced by a complex interplay of factors.

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Think about a coworker who gets defensive and makes excuses whenever someone tries to give them input.

Envision a spouse who instead of considering your suggestions, immediately shuts down and insists their way is the only right way.

Or imagine a friend that you offer advice on how to improve, but they just brush it off and say they are fine the way they are.

We can all remember times when people rejected well-intentioned feedback that could have helped them blossom into greatness. But what factors contribute to some folks accepting constructive criticism while others struggle with it? Here are some considerations:

1. Ego and Self-Esteem:

Individuals with fragile egos or low self-esteem may struggle with receiving criticism because they perceive it as a threat to their identity or worth.

For example, imagine a novice painter who is passionate about their art but lacks confidence. When someone offers practical feedback on their technique, they might interpret it as a personal attack rather than an opportunity to evolve. In contrast, a more experienced artist who is secure in their abilities might welcome the…



Adrian S. Potter

Antisocial Extrovert · Writer and Poet, Engineer, Consultant, Public Speaker · Writing about self-improvement, gratitude, and creativity ·