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A Blueprint for Coping with Fear
Recognize and analyze the phantoms.
The Secondhand Inspiration Project begins with a motivational quote and ventures wherever the creative path meanders.
When my daughter was a toddler, she had levels of anxiety a kid should never have to experience.
My wife and I felt helpless. We tried various techniques, read hundreds of books, and worked with a herd of counselors, trying to devise strategies that could help my daughter navigate through the forest of fear that surrounded her.
Eventually, we discovered a book by Dawn Huebner called What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety. It provided practices that helped dull her anxiety. The book talked about the dread people that experience in terms of “worry bullies.”
We slowly convinced my daughter that these imaginary worry bullies were perched on her shoulder. They whispered doubt in her ears that amplified her fears. But no matter how loud their voices sounded, the worry bullies were not real — she had enough strength to flick them off her shoulder at any time.
It took time, but eventually, we coached my daughter to ignore the chatter of worry bullies. It was an easy analogy for a child to understand. Honestly, it’s clear enough for a grownup to buy into as well.